Boys Room Inspiration

 

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What is more fun that decorating a kids room? In a way, you get to deck out your child’s bedroom like you would want your own bedroom to have looked like as a kid right!? There are so many ways your could decorate your little mans bedroom and sometimes you can find yourself a bit stumped at where to begin. Today I look at some current decorating trends used when decorating boys bedrooms and step away from the general ‘themed’ rooms. I’ve taken inspiration for each of the three mood boards from clothing pieces from Threads For Boys.

 

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A. Pants, Shirt & Moccasins-Threads For Boys. B. Wall Shelf-Design Stuff. C. Grid Cushion-CottonOn Kids. D. Muffin Lamp-CottonOn Kids. E. Print-Frankie & Co.

LIGHT AND BRIGHT  You might look at an all white boys room and think nooooo! But it is achievable! White is such a stunning choice for a kids room as you can add colour or textures in down the track. If I were to have a white room for my little guy, I would have a separate toy room or toy area for all the toys and general kids stuff to go. Choose simple items which are mainly white. Add a touch of light timber or perhaps some tan leather which will add warmth whilst still leaving the majority of the decorating white. For this mood board I have used mostly white items with a hint of black grid pattern.  A very sophisticated look and as I mentioned earlier, it will break up stark look of plain white.

 

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A. Hoody,Pants & Shoes-Threads For Boys. B.Bear Head-Adairs. C. Coat Rack-Adairs. D. Print-Hustle Living. E.Map Rug-Jack & Willows.

LITTLE MAN – I love nothing more than a little boy dressed as a little man. Styled haircut. Swanky clothes and gorgeous shoes. And I love an interior to match! If you are struggling to know where to start when decoratong your childs room, go with a theme. Now, when it comes to themes (think superhero or cartoon characters) you don’t need to only use items particular to that theme. I’d rather colour block and add a few themed items into the mix. And use more than one theme if you like-there’s no set rules! Two very popular trends at the moment are batman and Woodland. For this mood board I’ve subtly used these themes together to match the gorgeous little outfit from Threads For Boys. I’ve stuck with black and different shades of grey. To mix it up even more, you could add some leather or orange which would look great also!

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A.Shirt, Pants, Shoes-Threads For Boys. B.Cushion-Adairs. C.Play Mat-Kmart. D.Beanbag-Lilly & Lolly. E.Print-Milk n Honey Designs. F.Banner-Koby &  The Fox.

BRIGHT. BUBBLY. BOY Sometimes I think using lots of colour in a kids room can make it look a bit cluttered and messy. But lets face it-kids stuff is bright and colourful! So work with it to create your little mans dream space. You can achieve a bright and bubbly room which still looks fab. Start by picking two or three main colours and try to buy items only in these tones. That way your don’t end up with a jumbled mess and the room will be more uniform. For this mood board I have concentrated on blue tones with some yellow and orange thrown in. When I decorate I like to purchase some items from the big retailers as they are cheaper and still fine to use in kids rooms. That way I have some dollars left over to purchase handmade or unique small business items. Hunt around and find one of a kind or custom made items to give your little guys room an extra special touch.

Most importantly, have fun when decorating you child’s room! Involve your family and make it a special task which you complete together. It will put a smile on your face when you enter the room to know thay you created this special little space especially for your little man. And imagine the smile on his little face when he enters his newly decorated space.

Zoe xx

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Interview with Kaki Designs

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One of the reasons I love Instagram so much is because you meet genuine, down to earth, hard working, creative people. Today’s business is Kaki Designs and is run by work at home mum Kirstie who certainly ticks all these boxes! Not only does she make gorgeous timber creations, she is a bit of a super mum who runs her business with a toddler and an 8 week old. I bow down to you lovely lady! I enjoyed finding out more Kaki Designs and am so happy to share my interview Kirstie with you guys.

PhotoGrid_1465990611980Tell us a little about yourself and Kaki Designs.
I am a 24 year old stay at home mum to two little boys, Cade who is 2 and Kai who was born this year in April. My fiancé Cory works as a carpet layer and I started Kaki when I felt bad that Cory was the only one who was out making money. I never wanted my kids in child care so I knew the only way to work and stay at home with them was to work from home. I’ve always been quite creative so the logical thing to do was to start something from home using my creativity. Kaki Designs is a small business that has the capacity to grow and eventually I hope for it to be a successful small business that has a team running it, not just myself.

What is your work history and why you decided to start your small business?
I’ve always worked in an office or retail and sure, I’ve loved the interaction with customers and work colleagues, however I’ve always wanted to be a mum! When I was 21 I lost my dad. It was the hardest time of my life but from that, a positive came 9 months to the day of losing my hero, as I gave birth to my first child Cade. I then knew it would be a long time before I would be returning to work after all, life is too short and precious to be out working and away from your children. My partner earns enough for me not to work and working from home gives me something to focus on too. And to me, it’s not a just a job. I’m doing something I love and I get to have my babies with me while I do it.

PhotoGrid_1465990651438How did you come up with the name Kaki Designs?
Originally the business was started between my best friend and I. Her name is Katie and mine being Kirstie, we took the first 2 letters from both of our names and came up with KaKi. The business is now run solely by me but I didn’t want to change the name as it still held so much importance to me.

How long has Kaki been running and where do you work from?
I opened my small business in September 2014. As mentioned, originally when it began, it was myself and my best friend designing and creating invitations. Early 2016 the business took a new turn and I started designing and creating laser cut wooden wall art. Kaki Designs is run from home between my office and my studio in my garage.

PhotoGrid_1465990755255Do you have any stockists for your products and if so who are they?
So far we have no stockist for our products however we are on the hunt for some, and woukd love to hear from anyone who would be interested in stocking our range.

Do you have a best selling product?
Our best selling product is our “Initials Wall Hanging” which is a plaque with a couples initials, the date they met or got married along with a love heart graphic which is laser cut out of a timber circle.

What has been the best moment so far for Kaki?
The best moment in my business so far would have to be seeing people actually recommend my business and seeing the amount of orders I’ve had come through. I don’t usually believe in myself (it’s probably my biggest fault) and I always doubt mysel. So when I saw my business start growing from nothing, and I know it’s still very small, I was really proud of myself.

PhotoGrid_1465990634266What has been the biggest challenge for you and your business so far and how have you overcome it?
My biggest challenge for me and my business has been since my second son was born, I had to learn to juggle my time all over again. It has taken me awhile to get back into the swing of things, but I feel like I have accomplished so much for my family and my business this year. I’ve learnt how to juggle myself between a crazy toddler and a beautiful new born. I’ve completed our family by going through a very hard birth of Kai. And I’ve kept my business running along with a new release of products that is about to be launched (so keep your eye out)! My partner and I have had a rough few years with a lot that has happened to us emotionally, but I feel like Kaki Design has kept me sane in a way as its given me something to focus on.

What is your vision for Kaki Designs?
I hope that one day Kaki is well known to many people and that we have returning customers that have helped grow the business from the start. I want the business to be successful and loved. I take so much pride in every order that comes through and I can only hope that the customer receiving it loves it as much as I loved making it!

PhotoGrid_1465990599434And finally, what gets you through the day?
Firstly, Coffee – haha no but really, the inspiration of my two gorgeous little boys gets me through each day! They are sthe most loving, caring little creatures ever.Without them I would never have had any of the inspiration to get creative and work for my self like I have!

PhotoGrid_1466074694922Kirstie is kindly offering all readers 10% off all items in the Kaki Designs Store. Simply enter dicount code DIYBLOG at the checkout of their Big Cartel site. 

Websitewww.kakidesigns.bigcartel.com
Facebook: www.facebook.com/kaki10
Instagram: kaki_design

I’m that Mum who…

 

 

PhotoGrid_1465878204306I’ll admit it. I was the pregnant lady who wasn’t going to do this and wasn’t going to do that when it came to raising my child. I was full of shit. I was clueless. How did I know how I was going to raise my son when I had zero experience when it came to motherhood? I apologize to all the mums who I bullshitted to prechild. They would have known. They probably did it too. We all set out to be the perfect mum. But truth it, nobody is perfect. Anyone claiming to be a perfect parent is either full of shit or has a full time nanny. And hey-who wants to be perfect anyway? Where’s the fun in that?  We can only try our best and that’s more than enough!

FB_IMG_1465823034470So I will admit that I’m that Mum who fails often. But I don’t beat myself up over it. Actually I do the opposite-I quite often laugh at myself for being ‘that Mum’! Because it’s OK to fail! Failing is a sign of trying. And from trying comes learning.

I’m that Mum who will let their kid get absolutely filthy dirty while they are having fun. Because memories are being made and clothes can be washed.

FB_IMG_1465818822338I’m that Mum who says ‘shit’. Then my child says ‘shit’. Then I say ‘oh fuck’! Oops. I had a potty mouth before (and definetly whist) I gave birth so just because I’m now a parent doesn’t mean that I’m going to change.

I’m that Mum who turns up to mothers group at the beach without a hat. Without sunscreen. Without snacks. Who that day relied on the generosity of the other Mums to provide me with those items (thanks ladies).

FB_IMG_1465818672066I’m that Mum who gives food which has been on the floor (for more than five seconds) back to my kid. I ain’t cooking a whole new piece of toast for you through throw right back on the floor again. Now before people get their knickers in a knot, I only do this at home. Not out in public-that’s different! Yuck!

I’m that Mum who takes a photo of a funny situation involving their child before saving them. Cos that shot is funny and needs to be documented!

FB_IMG_1465822867976I’m that Mum who bribes my child with a lollypop so that I can go shopping in peace. Not every time! An apple also works a treat and gets me about 20 minutes of quiet which is enough time to do a lap of Kmart.

I’m that Mum who went to her first ever kick boxing lesson 3 months after giving birth and almost died due to being ridiculously unfit. And was the ony one there who didn’t have have a sports bra (E cup.Not good) and spent the majority of the one hour session trying to keep her boobs in her top.

FB_IMG_1465818211373I’m that Mum who can’t wait to drop their kid off at Nan & Pops. I’m not one of these mums who misses their kid 24 hours of the the day when they aren’t with them. Yes I miss my son but I know he’s safe and I love my me time! And I’m not just a Mum. I’m still me and deserve to have some fun!

I’m that Mum who will buy hot chips for lunch because I can’t be arsed making something.  We will have extra vegetables with dinner.

FB_IMG_1465818611438I’m that mum who takes their kid to McDonald’s for a play. Because I want a coffee and I don’t want to annoy people enjoying theirs in a nice, quiet cafe. Props to Maccas-coffee and a play area. Genius. Don’t know why more places don’t do it?!

I’m that mum who won’t dress my child in a shirt that says ‘my Mum is the best Mum in the world’. Because I’m not. And even if I was, I’m not a bragger.

FB_IMG_1465823328307I’m that Mum who accidentally left Spiderman on the roof of the car. Lucky his spidey skills kept on there until we got home. No meltdown that day thank goodness!

I’m that mum who loves her child so much it hurts. I’m that Mum that is winging this part of my life but is loving it more than I ever imagined! All Mum’s are ‘that Mum’ who thinks they are failing. You aren’t. You are normal. Hats off to you!

Zoe xx

 

Winter Decorating.

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Some of my top picks for winter decorating. Items from Adairs, Freedom Furniture, Zanui, Immy & Indi, Country Road.

Creating a beautiful and inviting home during those colder winter months can make it all the more bearable. I for one dislike the cold and have a hard time understanding why people even holiday in places with snow!?! But, we live in a country which is cold (where I am anyway) for a large chunk of the year, and so we must toughen up and wait it out. Which is easier to do if your interior is gorgeous and winter ready. So here’s my top tips for giving your home a bit of a winter makeover-without going full winter wonderland style.

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Gorgeous faux Furs from Adairs.

LAYERS | What do we do when the air starts to become cooler? We put the flannelette sheets on the beds and maybe pop a spare blanket on the end too. Do the same with your couch-add a blanket or two and also some extra cushions to snuggle into. You can tell your partner that they are for warmth when yes they are, but they are also making your living room or bedroom look fabulous! Don’t just choose cheaper, thinner blankets-go all out! Get an oversized chunky knit or faux fur blanket and make it a real statement piece! Choose something in a neutral colour so that you can keep using it year after year. White, cream, black, browns etc. With your cushions, mix it up a bit. Combine colour, pattern and texture to add interest. Again, chunky knits and faux Furs are great to give that winter look. Remember that you can mix and match to create your own unique style so play around with different ones until you find a happy combination for your interior. TIP: Use different sized cushions if you can on both beds and lounge chairs. It adds to the layering concept and gives a more luxe look.

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On trend designs from Beacon Lighting.

MOOD LIGHTING | Warm blankets. A cup of hot chocolate. Back to back episodes of your favourite show on Netflix. All under the soft light of a gorgeous floor or table lamp. That’s an ideal night in during winter for me!! I love turning off the main lighting in my home and switching on a lamp or two. It just adds to that comfy winter feel. Current trends for lamps include metallic and timber finishes. Both tie in very well with the winter mood we are trying to create for in interior space. Brass is in and it’s gorgeous. A great way of adding a dulled back bit of bling to your space. A very warm metal which is perfect for winter styling. If you don’t want to be picking items too on trend, go with a timber finish lamp or something plain coloured (white/black/chrome etc) as they will be less likely to date and you’ll get your money’s worth out of your lamp for longer. Depending on your space, you can select either a table lamp, floor lamp or even a low hanging pendant. A lamp isn’t just for giving off light. It can be a key feature point in a room so select carefully so that it sits well in your interior space.

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Indoor plants are guaranteed to look amazing in any style of interior.

INDOOR PLANTS | First off, if you dont have a green thumb, buy artificial plants. There’s some half decent fake plants and flowers out there these days so don’t feel bad for not being able to keep a real one alive (I kill plants. Often. And I love gardening!). If you do love some greenery in your home-I love nothing more than indoor plants to complete a space-then make sure you do a little research and find some plants suitable for your interior. I was given some great tips by the lovely ladies at Polly And The Wren for keeping indoor plants happy during the cold winter months. Still buy indoor plants-don’t be scared to have them because of the change in temperature and lack of sun. Just move your plants into brighter spots so they can drink in that gorgeous sunlight. Also, water your plants less as they won’t need as much as they do in the warmer months. Be wary of indoor heating as they will dry out and even kill your plants. Move your plants away from fireplaces and reverse cycle heating and pop them in front of a window so they can get some sun instead.

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Moody scented items from Dusk.

SCENTS | Something some people might not think of when decorating their home, but something I believe goes hand in hand with a gorgeous interior. I always light a scented candles when I’m expecting comany (or even when I’m relaxing at home) is I think it creates an inviting mood. In summer I prefer fruity,sweet scents where as in winter I love woody, musky or vanilla based scents. Tip: Buy your candles from either a retailer who specialises in candles or a small business who loves to create beautiful, true scents. Some of the big retailers manufacture candles which are sickly sweet smelling or have no smell at all. You want a gorgeous candle or scented product which omits it’s perfume throughout your house and so it pays to spend a little more and get a gooder quality one.

Don’t think that you need to change your entire interior in order for it to be winter ready. Set yourself a budget and purchase a few key items to help pretty up your home and give it that extra warmth during the colder months. Concentrate on the living area and master bedroom as they are the spaces you want to be cosiest. And when you are done decorating, grab that cup of tea or glass of red wine, sit on the couch surrounded by your new throw blanket and cushions, and own winter. In style.

Keep warm!

Zoe xx

Interview With Feather & Oak

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Feather and Oak owner Stace working from her gorgeous home studio by the sea.

I’m going to be straight up about today’s small business-I adore it! For so many reasons. Firstly, because of its owner Stace-who is gorgeous both inside and out. Secondly, because Stace creates amazing polymer clay jewelry and has an eye for delicious colour and texture combinations for her pieces. And thirdly, because she has become one of my Insta buddies ❤. Stace was one of the very first small businesses to pick me up as a brand rep when I first started The DIY Decorator which I appreciated so very much as it was a stepping stone for me to share my style. (She also picked @littlebrickhomestyle as a rep and introduced me to her fab account which I’m also thankful for). I think you know that behind a great Insta page is a gorgeous person running the show-which is very true of Feather & Oak.

PhotoGrid_1465037130805Stace, give us a little spiel about yourself and Feather & Oak. I’m a wife & mama of three little darlings living in a little beachside suburb called Mudjimba on the Sunshine Coast. We moved here from Brisbane about 18 months ago and we’re absolutely loving the coastal change. Feather + Oak is essentially my 4th baby. I work out of my home studio hand-rolling clay bead necklaces & hand-made earrings.

Tell us about your work history and why you decided to start your small business. Previously, I had worked in office jobs, law firms, property development etc but after having children my hubby and I were fortunate enough that we could manage without me working for a while and to just focus on family for as long as possible. I never set out to start a small business. One day I ordered some clay online intending to make a few necklaces as Xmas gifts for my mum and sisters-in-law and when it arrived I took an instant liking to to it – to the point where I ordered much more clay straight away as I knew I’d be going through it all quick smart! Little did I know that within a few months when I launched a small range of 14 necklaces on Facebook that I would be completely drowning in orders in which I was in no way prepared for. I had intended for the Facebook page to be an outlet for my newfound hobby but instead it quickly grew into a small business and regular sales to keep up with. So unexpected!

PhotoGrid_1465037173077How long has Feather & Oak been open and where do you work from? We just celebrated Feather + Oak’s 1st birthday a few weeks ago. I work from my home studio just two streets back from the beach. I sometimes sneak off to the beach for a swim and lunch at the local cafe. So if you’re wondering why your necklace is taking longer than expected that’s probably why. (kidding -sort of… )

How did you come up with the name Feather & Oak? My initial designs were clay feathers but I decided to delete them from my range as they were too delicate and breaking too easily. I also had planned at the time to include re-vamped timber furniture pieces in my products however that still hasn’t been able to happen as the necklaces have been the only focus due to such high demand. So the ‘Feather’ represented the jewellery side of the business and the ‘Oak’ represented the timber side of the business. It hasn’t gone to plan in that respect but I still love the name regardless.

PhotoGrid_1465037203279Do you have any stockists for your products and if so who are they? Yes I have a few but my main stockist is a lovely little boutique called The Change Room at Mooloolaba and they also have a new boutique recently opened at Peregian Springs which also stocks my pieces. @changeroomshop

Do you have a best selling product? Yes the ‘Isabelle’ necklace has been my best seller but I am close to launching a bunch of newbies so we’ll see if any of these take over from the Isabelle.
What has been the best moment so far for Feather & Oak? The first few days when I launched feather + Oak. It was overwhelming to see such an amazing response to my designs. I never expected for it to grow so quickly. It was incredibly exciting.

PhotoGrid_1465037096006How do you come up with the names for your pieces? Initially I named all my pieces after the women in my family. First my daughters then my mama, my hubby’s mum, my grandmothers, sisters-in-law, nieces, aunts & cousins then as my collection grew, I started naming them after good friends of mine. One of my most recent pieces I’ve named after my son Tommy because why should he miss out on the fun? He was a little wide-eyed though when I told him I’d named a necklace after him. He was really worried he’d have to wear it.

Do you have a process behind your designs? I get inspired by many things around me – sometimes new colour schemes are inspired by random things such as a pile of folded laundry – the colours of the clothes stacked together might look amazing. It’s obviously completely unplanned but if I love it, I take a photo so I don’t forget the combination then use it later on when working on new designs. It’s funny what you can notice and be inspired by even in the mundane day-to-day activities!

PhotoGrid_1465037112883What has been the biggest challenge for you and your business so far and how have you overcome it? My biggest challenge is learning the work /life/ home/ wife/ mama/family balance. Some days I think I have the juggling act down pat then a ball or two come flying down. Sometimes all of them. It’s hard to keep a consistency with everything. Perhaps I’ll get there someday but I’m learning to embrace the chaos!

Do you have any creative influences and if so who are they? @elkelucasceramics – a beautiful ceramist also living on the Sunshine Coast. She makes some delightful pieces. I’d just love to have a day alongside her one day!

PhotoGrid_1464767537298What is your vision for Feather & Oak? At this point, I’m just taking everything as it comes and not planning too far ahead. I guess I’ll just have to wait and see where Feather + Oak takes me.

What other small businesses on social media do you enjoy following and would recommend? @littlebrickhome for gorgeous home & fashion style inspo. @thedustypoppy because looking at her feed makes me feel all warm & fuzzy. Such cozy styling. And @Thediydecorator of course! (for all my styling needs)

And finally, what gets you through the day?
Chocolate. God. Family. Friends. Beach.

Website: coming soon!
Facebook: featherandoakdesigns
Instagram: @feather_and_oak

Anxiety. That Sneaky Bastard.

PhotoGrid_1464679265420This is the third time I’ve written this blog post. Why? Because anxiety, the sneaky bastard, makes me feel like a selfish bastard myself for being all ‘woe is me’. That’s the thing with anxiety-you think what the hell is wrong with me? I have a loving family. A roof over my head. Good friends. Everything I could ever want in this life of mine. Yet, there’s this little niggle in your head telling you that everything is not OK.  Everything is wrong. And it’s all my fault. I can only speak about my own experience with it and know that there are people suffering so much more than me. But here goes.

PhotoGrid_1464680103139Although I have known for a long time that there wasn’t something quite right in my head, I wasn’t made aware that I had been suffering from the sneaky bastard until I had my son. I was so excited to become a mum. It was a dream come true! Yet it was feeling more like a nightmare at the time. When Jack was just a few weeks old, I found that I couldn’t sleep. I couldn’t eat. I found it hard to bond with my gorgeous little man. And I simply felt overwhelmed by the world. Something I think lots of new mums feel, but in my heart I knew I couldn’t go on like this and be the best mum for Jack. After zero sleep for days, weeks even, I remember saying to my husband ‘what is wrong with me?’. I should be loving this new chapter of my life. Instead I was a walking zombie, living off a few teaspoons of Nutella each day. I was the skinniest I’ve ever been in my life and I could no longer produce milk to feed my son. I felt like shit. I felt like a piece of shit for being this kind of mum to my son. Thankfully I was aware enough to know this was not right and sought help from a local doctor. He immediately diagnosed me as having Post Natal Depression and straight away I started on a low dose of medication. I also sought help through a local mothers group especially for sufferers of PND. Both worked wonders for me-knowing I wasnt alone and talking to people seemed scary at first, but it was so great to know that i wasnt alone. The medication was perfect for me and I felt back to my old self in no time.

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Looking back I can see in my face how unhappy and lost I was

So once Jack was around 6 months old, I had finished my weekly sessions with the mothers group and decided to try taking myself off the medication. Big mistake. A few days of once again feeling overwhelmed and one minor meltdown later, I was back at the doctor surgery. Apparently you should never just take yourself off a medication (oops) and after a lengthy conversation with my doctor, he told me that it sounded like I had been battling with anxiety for some time and that the medication was helping my brain to be ‘normal’ again. PND was a heightened form of my anxiety. He explained that sometimes certain people need the help of medication to balance things out in their head and make them feel better. So as horrid as having Post Natal Depression was, it made me aware of the sneaky bastard and I was thankful to finally have a diagnosis. Now, I know that medication doesn’t work for everyone but it certainly did for me-a few days back on the meds and I started feeling well again.

For me, anxiety comes in the form of needing everything to be perfect (which always worked well when decorating! ). Feeling overwhelmed. Biting my nails. Losing my shit over nothing. Worrying. Worrying. Worrying. Which leads to exhaustion and not being able to sleep-not a healthy combination. Especially as a new mum. I wasn’t aware that these were signs of anxiety until I started on my medication. For the first time in forever, I grew my nails. I stopped worrying. And I started enjoying. I was able to stop. Sit down. And take in life. Enjoy it instead of worrying about it. Which I hadn’t done throughout the majority of my 20’s.

PhotoGrid_1464679248917Another thing which helped greatly with dealing with PND and anxiety for me, was starting up The DIY Decorator. I’ve never been able to do lazy well. I’m not one to sit around all day and not achieve anything. And so I decided to take my love of decorating and homewares and start something to occupy my time. Wow it worked well! Better than I could ever have imagined. I felt like I had a purpose again. I still regard it as a huge benefactor to helping me with deal with the sneaky bastard.

When I was first dealing with these issues,  I didn’t dare tell anyone. I was so embarrassed. My friends all had kids and seemed to not struggle. No one else that I knew of had anxiety. I did actually had one friend who was very open about having PND and suffering from depression herdelf and I am actually very thankful to her for sharing her story with me as I think it helped me seek help during my dark days. Once I started feeling better-the best I’d felt in ages actually- I started to open up to people. And not one person was negative. I learnt that many people I knew suffered from some sort of mental health issue which they were hiding just as well as I was.

PhotoGrid_1464679294114So what have I learnt about my own experiences with the anxiety? Always speak up. Nobody will judge you. And if they do, fuck them! They aren’t worthy of your friendship. It’s a hard enough battle without someone not supporting you. Don’t feel bad. It’s not your fault. You can’t control these feelings and sometimes you can’t fix them, so seek help. Talk to your friends. Talk to your family. I bet you will find that some of them will open up to you about their own demons. Be kind to everyone you come across. You don’t know what’s going on behind the scenes in their own lives and they might be having a really shit time right now. There were times for example when say someone was serving me at a shop were rude to me. I would go home and have a breakdown because of it. They ruined my day without even knowing or trying. And it wasnt their fault but as a sufferer I now know that I don’t want to do that to someone who is also suffering and so I  make more of an effort to be polite. Speak openly about PND and the sneaky bastard-because it creeps up on others too! Tell your pregnant frinds to be aware of Post Natal Depression-there’s not enough education for new mums on the subject. Let them know that they don’t have to suffer in silence and that you are a phone call away. Talking is the best medicine!

FB_IMG_1464752540387I can honestly say that I wish I had sought help for my anxiety years ago. I probably would have enjoyed life a lot more instead of worrying about it. Life’s too short to spend it being afraid and unhappy. Please, please, please seek help if you need it. Even if you aren’t 100% sure that you do, go see a Doctor anyway. You CAN feel normal again! I am so thankful for everything in my life even more now and am the happiest I’ve been in a long time. Yes there will still be hurdles and I’ll be completely honest, I am shit scared when I think  about having another baby in the future, but I know I’ll have the love and support from those around me and for that I am beyond grateful.

Zoe – THE DIY DECORATOR